What a terrible topic for our Yaya's to talk about behind us! But who can blame them? After all, our YAYA or anyone in the care of our young children including teachers who have been in the business long enough will question "Why some parents even had that child or children on the first place?"
Many reasons could be the following:
1. Accidental because after a night of bliss, a baby is on the way.
2. A couple is in wedlock, and the child just came...sort of planned...and then the second came and the third....
3. Some born out of strong social, religous pressure...children become status symbols
4. Some people have them because their spouse wants one, and to save the marriage, the child
must come, welcomed and wanted by both, or not.
5. Some singles elect to have a child either by adoption or procreation via a partner or a test tube donor. They may not necessarily be married but feel they have the love, desire, and means to provide the child.
6. Some have them to meet their own needs in a pathological way...to have something that no one can take away from them, and that they can control.
7. Some couples are on their second marriages and either one or both have children from previous marriage and decide to have a child together
8. Matured, goal-oriented married couple who worked and planned for the right time when they are secure as a couple, financially and emotionally ready to either procreate or adopt a child. What a joy these parents are to their family and friends and a blessing to their children!
Sunday, November 12, 2006
Caring for Yaya
How the parent perceives her role to her children seems to have a direct impact either in a positive or negative relationship with their yaya. Parents who are detached from their parental role are more likely to be detached from the yaya. It's almost as though the parent "fulfilled her duty" to produce their children, but now, someone else will have to raise them. Perhaps in time, someone will research and publicize the effect on children of being raised primarily by yaya's. Teachers and therapists know the problems these children have.
Children react to the emotional neglect of parents "particulary at the very earliest age of infancy," Age where "basic trust" is established and must lay the strongest foundation to the next stages of development( Erickson's psycho-social theory explains ). If parents do not act as the primary caregiver to their child from the beginning of life, patterns of problematic behavior can arise where raising children can become too difficult for other people (new yaya, other family members, teachers..etc) to handle. If a beloved "yaya" is involved in such families and leaves, often a child's sense of security leaves too. It is sad to hear a nanny or yaya tell of her decision to leave a family as she had been placed in a mother's role and she knows she can not be there permanently for the children. She usually leaves to preserve her own emotional health, although sincerely grieving for the children.
For guidance in Infant Toddler and YAYA care, please contact Menchit Ordoveza, RI Educaregiving Resources. Tel. (632) 852-5778; (0917) 8071064. E-mail: dearestnanny@yahoo.com. You can also check www.educaregiving.blog.com
Children react to the emotional neglect of parents "particulary at the very earliest age of infancy," Age where "basic trust" is established and must lay the strongest foundation to the next stages of development( Erickson's psycho-social theory explains ). If parents do not act as the primary caregiver to their child from the beginning of life, patterns of problematic behavior can arise where raising children can become too difficult for other people (new yaya, other family members, teachers..etc) to handle. If a beloved "yaya" is involved in such families and leaves, often a child's sense of security leaves too. It is sad to hear a nanny or yaya tell of her decision to leave a family as she had been placed in a mother's role and she knows she can not be there permanently for the children. She usually leaves to preserve her own emotional health, although sincerely grieving for the children.
For guidance in Infant Toddler and YAYA care, please contact Menchit Ordoveza, RI Educaregiving Resources. Tel. (632) 852-5778; (0917) 8071064. E-mail: dearestnanny@yahoo.com. You can also check www.educaregiving.blog.com
Inang Yaya -Parent/Nanny Relationship
Understanding your relationship with your yaya seems simple...
Are you the superivsing type ? or in a career of management role? We believe you will agree that you are more vulnerable to be more dependent on your yaya. Your first thoughts may be..."if the yaya is not competent and I get her upset, she could take it out on my child or walk out. You are working with and dependent upon someone who is basically responsible for your most prized possession.
There are many yaya's who are thrust into this role without any preparation or training...something akin to the parent role! But what do parent's know about childcare when on the first place they are inexperienced or uneducated about children and child development, more often creating a gap in defining perceptions of their role vs. a "Yaya's" role!
If your yaya have trouble following directions, producing, adhering to work rules, and accepting authority, there is always someone else who can.
Written by: Menchit E. Ordoveza
MY DEAREST NANNY
Training and Seminars for Yaya
(632) 8525778
(0917)8071064
mailto:Dearestnanny@yahoo.com
Are you the superivsing type ? or in a career of management role? We believe you will agree that you are more vulnerable to be more dependent on your yaya. Your first thoughts may be..."if the yaya is not competent and I get her upset, she could take it out on my child or walk out. You are working with and dependent upon someone who is basically responsible for your most prized possession.
There are many yaya's who are thrust into this role without any preparation or training...something akin to the parent role! But what do parent's know about childcare when on the first place they are inexperienced or uneducated about children and child development, more often creating a gap in defining perceptions of their role vs. a "Yaya's" role!
If your yaya have trouble following directions, producing, adhering to work rules, and accepting authority, there is always someone else who can.
Written by: Menchit E. Ordoveza
MY DEAREST NANNY
Training and Seminars for Yaya
(632) 8525778
(0917)8071064
mailto:Dearestnanny@yahoo.com
Parents looking for YAYA for their infant or toddler
Author: Menchit E. Ordoveza, RI Educaregiving Resources. 54 Lapu-lapu St., Magallanes Village, Makati City, Metro Manila. Tel. (632)852-5778. Mobile (0917) 8071064. E-mail: mordoveza@yahoo.com
The word YAYA is a "baby talk" for NANA which is a shortcut of "Nanny" originally used in the Europe and then in the America. The reasons seem obvious what their for. We have become a nation of working mothers. Others have limited or no family support at all. Others consider alternative care like day, home, or individual care.
Many Filipino families because of our close family ties have taken advantage of family members to look after their infants or children. Some hire a "kasama" in the home and if your a match, she becomes a part of the family. This kind of care can either be well worth it (HEAVEN) or for others, (HELL) of a time. Please enter your feedback which of the two exist now in your life.
My Dearest Nanny, which was founded in 1999 and have served many families in educating their nannies. In its interactive unifying program, the lessened gap among the parent, infant, and nanny in understanding their world have created positive environments for great childcare and minimal turnovers.
In July 2006, same founders have launched RIEducaregiving Resources. Now, Parents and Professional can be equipped with one centering phisosphy of Infant and Toddler Care. Caring with less anxiety, more secure, more confident. No need to explore the unknown, RI Educaregiving Resources is your key. No need to buy useless equipments, or unrealistic magazines and books that offers advises may or may not necessarily help. (can also check www.educaregiving.blog.com)
Our resources prepare Expectant Parents in setting up their home for great childcare and prepare them what to expect. We offer guidance, practical suggestions, to Parents with Infants/Toddlers on what they can realistically expect of their babies at any given stage of development, how to establish healthy patterns of behavior from the beginning, how to set up infant oriented environments from the beginning, how to respond to difficult behavior such as crying,how to observe, understand, respect and enjoy the individuality of each baby. (To get a free 2007 CALENDAR and of our activities, please text 0917-8071064)
And for the PROFESSIONAL...
Our Approach is based on RIE. The unique philosophy and methodology in working with infants was developed in the United States by educator and infant specialist Magda Gerber, built on the work of Hungarian pediatrician, Emmi Pikler, M.D. This approach was first demonstrated between 1972 and 1977 in the United States at the Demonstration Infant Program in Palo Alto, California through the Children’s Health Council by Magda Gerber and pediatric neurologist Tom Forrest, M.D. In order to continue educating parents and professionals in their approach, they founded Resources for Infant and Educarers (RIE) as non-profit corporation with Magda as the Founding Director.
We provide assistance in design and set-up of child care centers; curriculum development for day care or pre-school programs for ages below 3 years old; in-service staff training for teachers, teacher-aids; consulting services, manual of the RIE Philosophy and its applications. Audio Visual Materials. Quarterly Newsletters.
You are entitled for a FREE INTRODUCTION to check it out whether RIE is for you. We hold this every first Saturday of the month. Just confirm if you want to attend by calling us.
The word YAYA is a "baby talk" for NANA which is a shortcut of "Nanny" originally used in the Europe and then in the America. The reasons seem obvious what their for. We have become a nation of working mothers. Others have limited or no family support at all. Others consider alternative care like day, home, or individual care.
Many Filipino families because of our close family ties have taken advantage of family members to look after their infants or children. Some hire a "kasama" in the home and if your a match, she becomes a part of the family. This kind of care can either be well worth it (HEAVEN) or for others, (HELL) of a time. Please enter your feedback which of the two exist now in your life.
My Dearest Nanny, which was founded in 1999 and have served many families in educating their nannies. In its interactive unifying program, the lessened gap among the parent, infant, and nanny in understanding their world have created positive environments for great childcare and minimal turnovers.
In July 2006, same founders have launched RIEducaregiving Resources. Now, Parents and Professional can be equipped with one centering phisosphy of Infant and Toddler Care. Caring with less anxiety, more secure, more confident. No need to explore the unknown, RI Educaregiving Resources is your key. No need to buy useless equipments, or unrealistic magazines and books that offers advises may or may not necessarily help. (can also check www.educaregiving.blog.com)
Our resources prepare Expectant Parents in setting up their home for great childcare and prepare them what to expect. We offer guidance, practical suggestions, to Parents with Infants/Toddlers on what they can realistically expect of their babies at any given stage of development, how to establish healthy patterns of behavior from the beginning, how to set up infant oriented environments from the beginning, how to respond to difficult behavior such as crying,how to observe, understand, respect and enjoy the individuality of each baby. (To get a free 2007 CALENDAR and of our activities, please text 0917-8071064)
And for the PROFESSIONAL...
Our Approach is based on RIE. The unique philosophy and methodology in working with infants was developed in the United States by educator and infant specialist Magda Gerber, built on the work of Hungarian pediatrician, Emmi Pikler, M.D. This approach was first demonstrated between 1972 and 1977 in the United States at the Demonstration Infant Program in Palo Alto, California through the Children’s Health Council by Magda Gerber and pediatric neurologist Tom Forrest, M.D. In order to continue educating parents and professionals in their approach, they founded Resources for Infant and Educarers (RIE) as non-profit corporation with Magda as the Founding Director.
We provide assistance in design and set-up of child care centers; curriculum development for day care or pre-school programs for ages below 3 years old; in-service staff training for teachers, teacher-aids; consulting services, manual of the RIE Philosophy and its applications. Audio Visual Materials. Quarterly Newsletters.
You are entitled for a FREE INTRODUCTION to check it out whether RIE is for you. We hold this every first Saturday of the month. Just confirm if you want to attend by calling us.
Looking for the Yaya/Nanny that will fit you?
Are you looking for the yaya or nanny that will fit you?
In Metro Manila, Philippines serving since 1999 My Dearest Nanny's goal is simple: to educate and unite qualified and dedicated nannnies with their respectable employer and employers family. Our program offers technical courses for professional infant caring as well as parents/carer guidance classes.
Our nanny program is for you if:
1. You would like to train your first nanny but don't have the quality time to do so.
2. You would like to develop a system to help organize your current childcaregiver.
3. You want to improve the performance of your current caregiver but don't know how.
Program is at 2,500 for 5 session every tuestday and thursdays at Magallanes Village, Makati City twice a year (May and October). To register, contact Menchit 0917-8071064. 852-5778
Course Topics include: Skills in Basic Care (Feeding, Sleeping, Bathing, Preparing Bottles, Diapering). Stages of growth and Development (Infant/Toddler), Etiquette, Grooming, and General Expectations. Healthcare and Nutrition. How to Communicate Effectively. Safety Precaution and Handling Unexpected Situations, Common Ilnesses, Basic First Aid.
In Metro Manila, Philippines serving since 1999 My Dearest Nanny's goal is simple: to educate and unite qualified and dedicated nannnies with their respectable employer and employers family. Our program offers technical courses for professional infant caring as well as parents/carer guidance classes.
Our nanny program is for you if:
1. You would like to train your first nanny but don't have the quality time to do so.
2. You would like to develop a system to help organize your current childcaregiver.
3. You want to improve the performance of your current caregiver but don't know how.
Program is at 2,500 for 5 session every tuestday and thursdays at Magallanes Village, Makati City twice a year (May and October). To register, contact Menchit 0917-8071064. 852-5778
Course Topics include: Skills in Basic Care (Feeding, Sleeping, Bathing, Preparing Bottles, Diapering). Stages of growth and Development (Infant/Toddler), Etiquette, Grooming, and General Expectations. Healthcare and Nutrition. How to Communicate Effectively. Safety Precaution and Handling Unexpected Situations, Common Ilnesses, Basic First Aid.
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